Men and therapy
Men often don’t want to appear weak and so expressing emotions (apart from anger) can seem as just that. However, this can take a terrible toll on the reality of their day-to-day experiences leading to angry outbursts, depression and worse.
Therapy for Men
Of course therapy is for everyone and I see both men and women. However it seems that men have a bit more difficulty in accessing the therapeutic community. Many men have been raised with the ideas that 'big boys don't cry and best keep your pain in your pocket' from their parents and care givers. Notably, these ways of coping can help with building resilience whilst there is something quite affirming with the concept of pushing through and getting on. However, eventually these approaches can stop working as we become overwhelmed and flooded emotionally and so find it difficult to understand our inner pain. Unfortunately, the suicide rates for men in the UK are extremely high with men three times more likely to take their own lives than women.
That said, according to the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy men are now more likely to seek out therapy than ever before:
“Traditionally, more women than men have sought counselling, and this is in itself not a surprise. The concept of talking about feelings and exploring emotional and psychological difficulties has, for many years, been seen as a ‘female’ rather than ‘male’ trait. This has been embedded in gender socialisation and how women and men consider and evaluate themselves. However, things are beginning to change with more men seeking counselling and seeing it as both a positive and relevant source of help.”
During my years as a therapist I have witnessed some amazing changes happening to men when they begin to open up and talk about what is bothering them. At first they may come along with one agenda such as a relationship difficulty or anxiety but when we begin to gently unpick their story we find that something else is behind their current unease. However my role is to stay with my clients as they discuss whatever they want to, I am not there to insist on anything, they are the experts on themselves. But with my mindful guidance they can become even better acquainted with all sides of their personality giving them the wisdom and courage to make positive changes.
Common problems for men
Counselling for Men in Marlow, Bucks
I have a small, private and comfortable counselling practice in Marlow Bottom which is of easy reach of Beaconsfield, Gerrards Cross and Bourne End. This ideal space will give you the means to be able to relax as we begin to look into the difficulties that are currently troubling you such as sadness, stress or anger. I am not here to judge or embarrass you but to offer my therapeutic knowledge, empathy and together a way out towards a lighter, happier life. Call me today and began that change.